 Thanks Dave. That is probably the best answer. I had not thought of them, or the countryside bodies and such-like. Good suggestion there. Just a little thought here Lindsay, but if you go into the gallery, and click on that lovely picture of Dave you put in there, you can start a thread on the picture itself on here too. We could then all have that as a permanent memorial book for folks to go and sign if you would like. Any of his friends and family could then come here to sign the thread, or put some words, to pay their own individual respects to David. I do not see any reason at all why this shouldn't be done for him, as he was very much definitely 'one of our own' it certainly seems to me. I'd be proud to add my respects to him in this way here.
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thanks for the idea i have done just that but please feel free to look at his wesbite just relaised the name of the bridge i was prposed to at was stockly bridge in borrowdale
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can anybody advsie what o do with brand new and used walking gear clothes shoes sticks ice pick crampons tents sleeping begs etc ?????
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 Stayed clear of this thread so far, because I'm useless and tongue tied when it comes to tragedies like this. I just hope you're doing as well as you can be under the circumstances.
As for the items you have, I guess it's down to you Lindsay. You'd most likely have no problem shifting them on here or on ebay, but maybe it might be nice to donate some of the equipment to an outdoors association? Maybe one of the ones that take city kids out into the hills?
Just a thought. Maybe a completely crap idea.
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Linsay, this might sound like a little bit of a crappy idea to you right now, but might I propose the idea of boxing up and saving some of Dave's kit for your daughter in the future. Only right now of course I know this stuff is very much in the way, as a visual everyday reminder of your loss. But come future days, maybe even up to a decade or more on in the near future from right this moment now, your child might well want to then have these bits that daddy loved to carry doing 'his thing' outdoors; on his treks and travels enjoying his walks, which he so obviously loved to do in his spare time so much. It is a point of contact you see, as a connection - a real and a tangible thing, to keep a hold of for the future. Just a thought, but well preserved in plasic bagging and put up into the loft in a box there it will be very much out of sight, to keep the kit out of mind from reminding you each day of the awfulness of what you are currently going through right now. I know if it were I, if fate had dealt me this hand of losing one of my parents so young, then I'd likely want something to hold onto in the future; even if but for a short while perhaps. Your child left these things can then decide what to do with them in their future, when they're ready to.  These bits and pieces are the stuff and legend after all of just what real true 'family heirlooms' really are. They are as true a part of your daughter's future inheritance as any photo book or diary will too similarly be. You don't need to keep everything of course, just one or two or more choice bits, that are real personal items like the walking/ice axe for instance, and maybe especially that tent. Things that in the future your girl can take out maybe with her into treks into the hills herself, for I feel sure that she will want to do this, one day someday in the future, when she's older. As a simple true point of connection with her lost dad. I'm just really trying not to interfere here so much, but too want to try to speak for her a little in this, while she is too young to voice herself in this; so that she gets this chance in her future, that she is not robbed of this chance as fate has so cruelly robbed her of her beloved father. It is an opportunity that I feel very strongly she must be allowed to have, please. I implore you. It is easy to just sweep these things away from contact with us, and I don't want to knock that, as I know for many it is an important part of the grieving process indeed. But please do think of those future days now whilst you can do, with this walking stuff of your husband's still very much to hand. Bless you Lindsay.
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can anybody advsie what o do with brand new and used walking gear clothes shoes sticks ice pick crampons tents sleeping begs etc ?????
Lindsay, why not donate the stuff to Ambleside Mountain Rescue then they can auction it for funding.
kind regards mick
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yeah thats a good point but he had 4 sticks - new brand new old crampons and new ones never used size 11 boots used twice he was wearing his other new pair plus loads of trews from 36 to 44 and shirts walking jkts fleeces and windproofs not to mention the 2 man tent 4 man tent and new sleeping bag and huge box of camping bits - the ice pick is huge and a bit vicious for a femal and would hope that even if she got the walking bug she owuldnt be going in condtion requiting this !!!! i will keep a stick and his special campinng cutlery that i bought him but the rest i dont see the point in keeping the rest ive got lot sof phtos to show her of daddy in alkes in hsi kit
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Is it an actual ice axe/ice pick though? I think it is more likely a standard long handled walking safety axe. It is realy required walking kit for winter trips in the hills you see. It might look a bit big and dangerous on first looks, but it is designed for safety in snow. I know a good few females that carry and use these in basic winter hill walking up in Scotland here. The smaller 2 man tent would'nt take up much space in the loft perhaps, and your daughter could go onto using it at a rock ferstival maybe one day even, in future days of teenaged heady carefree youth. Just a thought anyway. As for all the rest of the kit there - well he definitely was one of us then!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tents, walking kit and outdoor clothing galore, just like in all of our homes too.
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oh aye he had an entire wardrobe devoted to it all !!!!
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I'm just an 'ordinary' walker...but having been through something similar, I can only say 'Hang in there', you seem very brave to me, to share you thoughts with one and all. We'll be with you all the way.
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 I've sent a PM to you Lindsay but for others also interested here's what I got from the National Trust regarding memorials. I spoke to a very helpful lady who was responsible for the area around Jack's Rake and whilst she was totally sympathetic to the request she was not able to give it the OK. As some on here thought, they have a policy of saying no to memorial requests.
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got your pm ta may just see if someone will do it fo rme anyhow - even if its just for some photos - i need closure
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by the way guys added some extra pics of dave to teh gallery plus one us together
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thought you might like to know that the total money raised in daves name so far stand at 996 .91 and im taking it up this friday so will be in the lakes at the same time as his mates are scattering him from hevellyn - nice to be near eh !! still cant beleive all this tho its a dream - abi keeps going to the phoen and telling daddy it time to come home he will be interned today so another heart wrenching day - i hate wednesdays
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Hi there Lindsay, I will definitely be thinking of you today in all of this that's happening. I know that sometimes that old saying of 'Time being the greatest healer' can appear a little bit crass and insensitive; but still I think it does assuredly hold true for most folks, as a real truth in these such times. You are, with today's events, a little closer on at least to finding the closure that you so much seek, and God willing day by day, things will become better for you I do both hope and pray. Mourning and the whole human grieving process are very important experiences indeed, that need to be got through. You will come out the other side, have no fear. May God Bless you, in your life from here on in.
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i dont know about that still so many unamswered questions and the inquest to deal with in 3 mths
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I'd like to echo Trevor's words. You and Abi are in my thoughts Lindsay. As you know I got in touch with the National Trust and I have now received some info on commemorative opportunties in the Lakes which, if you decide to go down that road, would be a lasting memory to Dave in an area he obviously loved. http://www.fixthefells.co.uk/index.htm is a project run in partnership with the National Trust and the LD National Park - they have a number of footpath repair schemes or one nice idea I saw was a kissing gate. If you PM me your address Lindsay I'll put what I've been sent in the post to you. Take Care
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