So have I just been unlucky, or are these things basically unreliable?
well, by it's very nature, statistically a proportion of inflatable mats/tyres/innertubes/footballs etc will get a puncture
There does seem to be a huge amount of anecdotal stuff out there of all flavours of airmat leaking sooner or later.
often reparable, but personally I wouldn't fancy attempting a repair when wildcamping.
At least with a SI mat you get a little bit of insulation if it goes flat. And less faff to inflate - especially in a tiny tent in bad weather (or bivying!)
I have been trialling using just a ccf mat again this last year, and have suceeded sleeping ok when solo and can back-sleep (with my other half I have to side-sleep usually cos of the snoring with the former
). Most times it's just 3/4 SI TAR. (I add a ccf in winter)
I bought a POE ether something for my OH, (one of the tougher ones) but that sprung a tiny leak right next to a seam (so not a part in contact with the ground even)... Never again -
(except maybe an exped downmat for deep winter- which appear to have better reliability)