Gerry can also be really solicitous and kind. Last time (3rd visit) I stayed upstairs with the kids - he spent a load of time making sure there were no midges in the room so we wouldn't get bitten. His grumpyness isn't attractive but I don't blame him for wanting to keep 'order' in his establishment. I'm sure he's had plenty of instances of folks leaving him with their 'messes' to clear up. Just don't expect him to change any .